My husband and I were married for 32 years. He passed away this past April and this is the first Valentine that I will spend without him in nearly 40 years. Our children are grown and are all moved away, so I will be totally alone this year.

What do I do without him?

Signed,
Missing My Valentine

Dear Missing,

You know death doesn't have to mean you must part. Things have changed, but it doesn't have to be the end.

I say cook his favorite meal, set out a candle light dinner and put his picture across the table... and enjoy a dinner with the one you love. It may seem sad to many, even morbid to a few, but in the end, you will find it oddly comforting.

It's still so early on, and you still have a lot of firsts to get through... so don't try to deny them, bury them so deep that you stop feeling everything. Your grief is real, so work your way through it.

Be there with his memory beside you... reminisce about your special moments... realize that this is only temporary and that one day you will be reunited.

He'll be there for you on Valentine's Day... as he has been in the past, and will be in the future.

Keep the Light on,
Gurustu